Perhaps Maybe Not Suppressing Emotions

My pal Michael explained, “The ‘traditional’ wedding agreement says, ‘I’ll love you forever and do not love another,’ but that’s a vow most can’t keep, and most likely why 1 / 2 of modern marriages result in breakup.” Michael says he’s a desire to own many deep psychological connections rooted in friendship.

We haven’t cheated on my ex-boyfriends, but We confess to desires that are feeling times and confusion about those desires. But I quashed those feelings and penned them off as “wrong. because I became in a monogamous relationship,” But according to polyamory, those aren’t wrong — they truly are normal. But due to personal fears that people might separation plus the unspoken contract we’d, we felt i really couldn’t show those emotions.

Centering on skills and Not wanting “Better”

Here’s a serial monogamist’s playbook: you leave somebody for the opportunity another person could be better.

In polyamory, there is absolutely no “better,” only “different.” Which means you don’t need to leave a very important thing if it is missing something — you simply include another to satisfy that lack. Read more